When you first meet people all you notice are the differences between you and them, but as time passes you start noticing the similarities. I guess that's how all friendships begin.

New acquaintances start out defined by contrast, with every difference standing out sharply at first. Over time, though, attention shifts toward what people share instead, and that gradual recognition of common ground is offered here as the quiet origin of real friendship.

Context reviewed 23 September 2026