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An Ideal Husband · 1899

Oscar Wilde

In married life affection comes when people thoroughly dislike each other.

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Our interpretation.

This is a wry inversion of what people expect from marriage. Instead of warmth growing from compatibility, the speaker jokes that fondness arrives only once two people have thoroughly disliked each other. It's a paradox played for laughs, treating mutual irritation as the odd doorway to affection.

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