A candlelit Victorian dinner party, a plump old lady in black lace laughing at the head of the table as a languid dandy holds forth and a handsome young man listens.

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The Picture of Dorian Gray · 1890

Oscar Wilde

When a woman marries again it is because she detested her first husband. When a man marries again it is because he adored his first wife. Women try their luck; men risk theirs.

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It is Lord Henry's whole method in miniature: a shocking turn of phrase that sounds like cynicism and works as a compliment to the lady he is addressing. Wilde gave his characters epigrams that invert a proverb, and this one, with its gamble ending, is still passed around in wedding speeches and quote lists.

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In Chapter XV of The Picture of Dorian Gray (1891 book edition), Dorian and Lord Henry Wotton dine at the house of the widowed Lady Narborough. The talk turns to Madame de Ferrol, a woman with four husbands, and Lady Narborough jokes that she may have to marry again to be in fashion. Lord Henry cuts in to tell her she never will, because she was far too happy with her husband, and delivers this epigram. She protests that Narborough was not perfect, and Lord Henry answers that women love men for their defects.

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